Setting healthy boundaries will free you

Jerzy Rajkow-Krzywicki
Jerzy Rajkow-Krzywicki
Setting healthy boundaries will free you

What are the four elements you could limit in order to feel better? How to be more happy, more creative and more productive?

Topics from Vlog #25:
  • How constraints make you more creative and more productive?
  • What is the Parkinson's law?
  • How to be faster and more efficient?
  • What are the four elements you could limit intentionally in order to feel better?
  • What it is the most fulfilling thing in life?
  • How to limit our reach - in an emotional sense?

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Constraints make you more creative and more productive.

I have ditched my smartphone one month ago. I am noticing some changes in my mental health and also in my creativity. I have already published a vlog episode saying that the less technology I use, the more creative I am. It's for obvious reasons: today technology is mainly hijacking our attention. If your attention is being hijacked, you cannot be creative. Rather, you can only be reactive.

This is especially true if you are some kind of a creative worker. If you have no limitations, you will have a very hard time to be creative and to remain creative.

Studio Drum Kit - Sticks, Snare and Tom
Photo by James Scott / Unsplash

My studio is the perfect example of how limits can increase creativity.

There was a time when I thought that I should completely rebuild my recording studio. I thought I should accommodate more players and be able to record full bands. It was a thought that was blocking me from getting clients and from getting the work done, actually. It's only when I embraced the limits of this place and I said "OK, it will be a purposefully limited place" that I started to find clients.
The limits are very clearly set, because it's a small place to record, and I'm recording only drummers and drum parts here. Also, this studio is purposefully limited because I am using only analog equipment: - an analog desk to route and mix, - I am only recording to multitrack reel to reel tape.

There is no computer involved in this process. All of this in 2021 sets huge limits both on me and on the artists that would like to record with me. And this is paradoxically giving me more creativity in my endeavours.

It also completely limits the number and the type of people that cooperate with me. If somebody wants to record in a big place with Protools software and computers - this artist will not come to me. Setting those limits is actually improving my business. It's making me unique on the market and also is making me more creative myself in my mixing due to the lack of the computer in the process.

Photo by krisna iv / Unsplash

The Parkinson's law.

There is a law of productivity that says that the tasks you need to accomplish will take the time you allocate to them.

My experience tells me it's true. If you found that you have a very ambitious project and you had very little time, you would probably be very fast at executing this project. You would also be very creative at getting the things done. If you allocate yourself less time, you will probably do more. In productivity also, setting some limits is actually giving you an opportunity to do more and to be faster.
This does not mean that you HAVE to do more. I don't think that the purpose of productivity is to always do more. Actually, I think the purpose of productivity is to do LESS and FASTER.

Intentional limits work in "normal" life as well.

Let's imagine what are the four elements you could limit intentionally in order to feel better every day.

Photo by NeONBRAND / Unsplash

1. Limit external influences on yourself.

What are those influences, you might ask?

Here we go:

  • advertising,
  • opinions of others,
  • beliefs of others,
  • maybe some kind of a trend on the market,
  • maybe a fashion trend, also?

By limiting external influences you will focus automatically on yourself and on what YOU need. You will start living your life and not the life of some kind of a marketing expert.

2. Limit what you pay attention to.

It's linked to limiting technology. I think it's linked also to limiting external influences. But it goes a little bit further. Limiting what we pay attention to is in fact PRIORITIZING what is important for us in our life.

This is something that is very rarely done by people. People don't think about their priorities. Limiting what we pay attention to is key to living intentionally.

If, like me, you're a productivity nerd, you will probably also think about tasks. So...

3. Limit your tasks.

Hey Jerzy but why?

Because if you try to do too much in your day, you will be stressed and you will be unfocused. Your attention will be scattered between the tasks you have to execute and you will not have a feeling of advancing towards your goals.

The feeling of advancing towards your goals and the sensation of progress is one of the most fulfilling things in life.

Finally...

Ideas waiting to be had
Photo by Kelly Sikkema / Unsplash

4. Limit your reach.

What is reach?

Reach is when you purposefully don't treat other people problems as your problems. You don't let them reach you. It's when you say "OK, this person is reacting/is feeling like that. I understand it. It's not my problem. I will not let this affect me."

This can be very useful in your private life between your friends, your acquaintances. But it can be also very, VERY useful in a professional setting, at work with your clients.

Very often, how people react to your work or to your adviceis not a reaction to YOU as a person, but it's a reaction to:

  • THEIR problems,
  • THEIR fears,
  • THEIR thoughts.

Saying "OK, but I think it's not my problem. How this person communicates will not affect me." is very useful because if you think that all the problems of all the people around you are also yours, that will overwhelm you.

Limiting our reach in an emotional sense is very useful as a protective mechanism for your wellbeing.

What do you think about those 4 things to limit?

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